There are 10 essential flirting moves that you must know:
1) Smiling
You must smile. You probably think you smile now, but you don’t, really. You should practice your smile in the mirror. To be big enough to be noticed, your smile will probably have to be bigger than you are used to. Read the rest of this entry »
If you are one of those parents taking to the skies this summer on vacation with you kids then you are probably aware that getting off the ground safely and sanely can be a huge challenge. Here’s some information about what to expect both at the airport and while flying the friendly skies.
Pack Smart:
Other than an air sick bag—which, beyond its intended use, can be filled with hot water to warm a baby bottle—there is nothing onboard an airplane that can help you help your kids. Think ahead.
Consider carrying these kits with you instead of packing them at the bottom of the car trunk or checking them with your luggage in case you need to get to them quickly. Read the rest of this entry »
Ok lets face it none of us knows everything. I also know that there are a few extremely brilliant minds out there but hey, forget your intelligence and work with me here as i try to educate the rest of the masses a little something about life, dating and relationships.
The Law of Attraction
The idea that you move towards what you think about. Thoughts breed thoughts alike. One thought leads to the next which leads to the next, which ultimately leads to action on your part. Of course this process often goes unnoticed because of the fact that we as humans rarely judge the origins of our actions and decision making. In attracting women, it should come as no surprise that your thoughts must be directed towards success with women. You must foresee it happening and expect it to happen. If these thoughts are held vividly and long enough, you will have beautiful women in your life.
Cat String Theory
This theory is based on the observation that when you dangle a string just out of reach of a cat, it will do everything in its power to get the string. However, as soon its prize has been won and the cat has the string in its grasp, it will quickly lose interest. Applied to attraction and seduction the thought is to demonstrate value while remaining the prize just out of reach. This creates anticipation and her pursuit of you.
Thought Suppression Phenomena
When we try to suppress certain information, it is often an impossible feat. For example right now I would like you to NOT THINK OF THE LAST TIME YOU HAD SEX. Notice that no matter how hard you try, the THOUGHT popped into your head. This can be useful in putting images into a women’s head that make you seem more attractive.
Controlled vs. Automatic Processing
When you engage in any behavior you are using both automatic and controlled processing. An automatic process is something you do without thinking. Breathing is a good example of this. Controlled processing requires a conscious effort such as choosing the right words to speak. When gaining knowledge in the game, as with most all learning processes, the application starts as a controlled process and ideally becomes an automatic process. This is also described as techniques vs. attributes.
3 Second Rule
When seeing an attractive women you wish to pursue, it is crucial to approach her within three seconds. The first and most important reason is that if you wait longer than three seconds, your mind will engage in ego protection and try to convince you of all the reasons you should not approach. The second reason is that as soon as a women has seen even a glimpse of your motive, she will expect you to approach immediately. If you do not approach immediately, she will assume you to be weak and unsure of yourself.
False Time Constraint
When a stranger approaches a group of people there are generally two thoughts that go through the groups mind. “Who is this person?” and “How long are they going to stay?”. If you anticipate this rejection you can use a false-time constraint immediately after approaching (Ex. “I can only stay for a second but….”) and alleviate the group from being concerned about how long you are going to stay. Of course once this discomfort is alleviated and you have won the group over, the time constraint is no longer relevant.
Law of Scarcity
The law of scarcity is simply that when someone perceives something that they desire to be in limited quantity, the perceived value of that thing or person becomes much greater than if were widely available.
Frame Control
The ability to control the looking glass of reality in the favor of the observer. This concept is similar to constructed reality.
The Hungry Don’t Get Fed
The basic principle of this concept holds that acts of desperation are met with discontent. When you convey desperation, the energy that emanates from you invades the energy of others. People who feel the presence of this burdensome energy will make an effort to reclaim their enteric homeostasis and either remove themselves or get you to leave.
Find the Flaw
Finding the flaw is a way to mentally lower a women’s value in your own eyes by finding a physical or emotional flaw in her. This reduces her value in so much that your expressed behavior is high status and ultimately more attractive.
Hoop Theory (credit mystery)
Believe it or not, human beings are equipped with tools to test the strength of other human beings. Physical strength is often measured easily and objectively but mental strength is measured differently and more abstractly. People will test the will of others by presenting hoops for them to jump through. If you can get someone to do something for you, you in turn made them jump through your hoop and have demonstrated a superiority over them.
Cognitive Warm-up
The concept that your mind takes time to warm up and gain clarity and sharpness. This is also considered a technique in which you practice warming your mind up.
Group Theory (credit Mystery)
when approaching a set of people, rather than approaching target female, approach the group as a whole. You want to win over the whole group while paying less attention to the target female. This in turn will make her inclined to win you over as well.
Video Game Theory
The theory holds that this game of attracting women can be described as a video game without a save button. The generally idea is that in every new set of women you approach, you start at square one; and continue through a specific set of levels before a sexual relationship has developed. And like a video game, you practice and get better until you beat the game.
Pre-selection
This evolutionary theory was developed when scientists inquired about the mating game in animals. They discovered that when a male grouse who was not mating with any females was put next to a stuffed female grouse, other females starting mating with him. This phenomena was later uncovered in human behavior as well. Furthermore, a women’s attraction for you increases when she sees that you have already been pre-selected by other women. It should come as no surprise that there comes a priceless benefit of being seen with attractive female.
Law of Large Numbers
The law of large numbers holds that the more women you meet, the higher probability you will have in attracting one. The law of large numbers is often applied when attempting to seek out a short term relationship. This is so because it generally places value on “quantity” over ”quality” Nonetheless, if applied correctly, it can be a potent way to attract some women.
Constructed Reality Theory
This theory is a product of the postmodern psychology movement. It is based on the premise that the map is not the territory in the human mind. Human memory, reasoning and subjective reality is never an exact replication of real-world reality. For that reason, this theory holds that we have the ability to construct our own meaningful realities that emphasize personal growth rather than accuracy.
Attribution Theory
This theory developed within the field of psychology holds that we often attribute behaviors of others differently from behaviors of our own. More specifically we attribute the behaviors of others as trait based attributes (He is a lazy person) and we attribute behaviors of own to circumstances (I feel lazy because I didn’t sleep last night).
Stage Theory
Stage theories in general describe how we go through distinct stages as we develop. Thus, rather than gradually changing, we typically make sudden shifts to different plateaus of perception and behavior. This may be associated with ‘aha’s of sudden understanding.
Yes, the term “bachelor pad” may be a little dated, but the concept is still the same. You’re a single guy. You live by yourself, or maybe you share a house with a friend. No matter. The place where you stay is your bachelor pad and eventually, if you’re lucky, a woman or two or twelve will be coming by to check it out.
The most important things to keep in mind when designing your bachelor pad are:
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If you are a man you will agree with me that Women ARE confusing. Always have been and always will be. That’s just the way they are.
Especially when it comes to romance, women seem totally inconsistent in their behaviors.
One minute you’re convinced you’re the man of her dreams, and the next she seems to be unaware of your existence. One minute she’s flirting, and smiling, and rubbing up against you, and the next minute she’s gone, left without even saying “bye.” You SHOULD be frustrated and confused!
Now, no one knows exactly why women give off such mixed signals, but it seems to me as a deliberate attempt to confuse us men. Some suspect it’s those magazines they read. Others think it has to do with the girl time sessions they hold. Still others propose that their illogical behaviors are due to the wacky hormones they have surging throughout their bodies. The cause is relatively unimportant. You just have to accept it, and plot your strategy to deal with it. Read the rest of this entry »
Flirting is much more than just a bit of fun: it is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction. Anthropological research shows that flirting is to be found, in some form, in all cultures and societies around the world.
Flirting is a basic instinct, part of human nature. This is not surprising: if we did not initiate contact and express interest in members of the opposite sex, we would not progress to reproduction, and the human species would become extinct. Read the rest of this entry »
One of my friends is really good looking and very fashion savvy. He knows how to match the colors of his trousers with the colors of his shirt, his shoes are ‘trendy’ and his haircut is so well prepared that makes every woman’s head in the venue spin when he walks around: they clearly consider him a visual candy.
Me and John went out some time back and sat at a bar to have a beer or two. Not very far away from us, two pretty blond girls were having some cocktails.
This meant that something had to be done.
The blondes started to throw quick glances at my friend and the taller one gave him a good, loooong eye contact which every child, mother and elder in the audience knows what it means. At some point, maybe because of the beer, maybe because he was pushed to, he decided to go and speak to them. If two would go, it would not be a pick up but more something like a cavalry attack. Instead, I decided to sit back and watch the whole interaction take place while pretending to be talking to the barman, who was pretending to be listening.
Upon his arrival to target, the girls were looking at him with big eyes. He leaned over them and said something that I did not hear.
Then to his fans surprise, something broke.
As from that point on, everything went wrong. The girls looked at each other with bewilderment. One smirked a bit and looked down at her drink, which for some reason started to seem much more interesting than my buddy. Soon after that, they both started turning their body language away from him, in what the whole bar would call a clearly dramatic moment.
Because this happened while poor John was talking to them.
Boom. It was over before it even had started. With a clear deception in his eyes, he picked his pride from the floor and returned back to base.
You see … my friend has a very particular speech pattern.
Equipped already with a high pitched tone voice, he pushes that even higher when he is stressed. Even if that was not enough… he speaks FAST. And when I say fast, I do not mean, I just-had-a-coffee fast; I mean I just-had-a-speed fast.
Seriously John… you sound dreadful.
Vocal training
Voice. One uses it and becomes a politician; another misuses it and can’t order a pizza over the telephone properly.
But as for most human tools, your voice is also OPEN to improvement and development.
Diaphragm
Most people think that it is just the vocals that produce the sound. Others believe that the more hard you push the air out of your lungs, the better your voice sounds.
Hell, no.
Your voice is produced by a combination of organs. Your lungs and your diaphragm push the air, which meets the vocal chords, and they all together start a series of vibrations.
These vibrations expand through your lungs and mouth cavity. The key word here is resonance. They way you move your mouth, the way you expand your throat and more important, how deeply you breath, is what makes the resonance sound high or low.
With the same air speed, you can resonate high, or you can resonate low.
You might want to try an experiment. Say “yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh” long enough. Now try bringing your voice down from the higher pitch to the lowest tone you can. Keep your air speed steady. You will be able to notice that your voice will resonate in three different places as you go from high up the frequency scale to deep down low. First you will resonate at the nose, then you will resonate at your throat, and last and more important you will resonate down at your chest. There is where the bass lies.
Pavarotti, the tenore, used to sing well because of talent and because he trained for years his diaphragm to bring it at a master’s level.
By doing some vocal training, you may learn to move your resonant point further down your body. That is a good thing. People will pay attention to you more often because of that.
There was a test once, and it was found that people that have a deep bass voice, people that know how to make plenty of pauses, and people that take their time when they speak, are way more attractive than all the rest.
Notice also that what you do here, is that you control a whole series of organs to bring out an end result: Keep the point of you resonance down to your chest and away from your head.
This is done, by trying to breathe deeply from your diaphragm and not shallow from your upper lungs.
You see, all babies and animals breath using the diaphragm. As we stress and move on in life, we make the error and start breathing shallower. There is a misunderstanding in western society. For some bizarre reason, the image of a fit man is one with a strong chest. So, many people when asked to take a deep breath, they start by expanding the upper part of the lungs. My friend, if you want to have a big chest, go to the gym. Breathing high, will not only make you less calm, but will also make you seem more defensive.
Normally, a high pitched voice reminds us of being less calm. Remember the first time you spoke in public, or the last time you were defending your self about something. Your voice was a pitch higher than normal.
If you want to stay calm: keep your breathing deep and your voice as bass as it can go. This will stop any unwanted positive stress feedback phenomena.
Exercises. In order to be de-programmed of this bad way of breathing, you will need up to several months. But it can be done. There are some exercises that do exactly that. You should not to overdo with them and should perform them only after you have talked to a doctor or a voice expert. Strengthen your diaphragm awareness exercises.
1) Inhale from your diaphragm. Push your stomach up like a balloon. Count silently 1-2-3-4 while inhaling. Count 4-3-2-1 silently while exhaling. This should not be done more than 6 times per day.
2) Inhale from the diaphragm deeply. Exhale slowly. So slowly that, if there was a candle in front of you, you wouldn’t blow it.
3) Keep a body language where you head stands still but you chest doesn’t stick out.
Resonance
1) Inhale deeply again. Exhale slowly while resonating from you chest. You should feel the resonance down to your belly. Avoid the nose or the throat. Your exhale should be stable with no tone changes and with no added effort.
2) Perform the same, but this time start visualising that the resonance point looks like an elevator going up and down, as it travels from your nose to your chest.
3) Perform the same, but this time say all the different vocals in the alphabet, until all of them sound with the same tone. You may spot some that are less bass than others. Work them.
Speech rhythm
4) Try and find something to read. Read it out loud, while you are able to read at about 160 words per minute.
5) Give feelings to your words. Hit at least two tones. A monotone is *not* an EXCITING voice, to listen to.
EXTRA): To learn to articulate well you can do a series of exercises where you say every consonant with every vocal while speaking from your diaphragm and while you articulate slowly:ba bo bi bo bu, ca co ci co cu, da do di do du, …., za zo zi zo zu. Then make sure when you speak to someone that you speak slowly.
This is a question that many of us don’t really have an answer to.
I think that most of us REALLY want to be “good” to women… we want to do nice things, treat women well, and “take care” of them.
But many are times when a man meets a woman he likes have the woman leave them for a broke ass good for nothing jerk who does’t treat the woman half as good as they did.
So to all you men out there who want to buy women flowers and chocolets… Read the rest of this entry »
There is a saying that, Sometimes a man has to lose his bearings to find his way. There are multiple paths through midlife crisis, each man’s journey is unique, shaped by his history and his hopes, his relationships, his blood pressure, and the angle of his dangle. To be sure, the intensity of the midlife passage varies greatly.
For some men, it’s a dark ordeal that includes depression. For most, it’s a less perilous, but still demanding. Read the rest of this entry »
Imagine being able to eat just about anything you want and never have to worry about growing fat?
Experts recommend that the only way to lose weight is to take in less than what you burn yourself or take it in and burn it all out through workouts and exercise.
But that’s a lot of work and if you are like us then your probably looking for an easier way round it.
Sorry to burst that bubble, but there is no such thing as a free ride or a true fat burning powder — yet!
And those so called fat burners out there at least according to us don’t really work not to mention some of their side effects.
In the meantime, all we can do is recommend certain foods which, when eaten in moderation, will enable you to burn calories faster. Read the rest of this entry »